Social media has brought us a little closer to celebrities–but just where do we draw the line?

Earlier this week, singer/songwriter Kehlani was caught up in controversy when her ex-boyfriend, PartyNextDoor, posted an Instagram photo of their hands intertwined on a bed. He included a disrespectful caption that alluded the two of them are still sleeping together, even though she’s supposedly in a relationship with NBA star Kyrie Irving.

“After all the shenanigans, still got the R&B singer back in my bed,” the caption read.

Of course, PND then deleted the evidence.

Twitter and Instagram promptly exploded, sending Kehlani’s name soaring into the trending topics. Accusations and name-calling from “fans,” haters, pot-stirrers, etc. have been rampant since.

This all brings me to one question: Why on earth do people presume to know what’s going on in a relationship when 99% of you have never met anyone involved?

In an age of gossip, publicity stunts, Photoshop, and outright pettiness, unless you have the FACTS, do not start making assumptions and trashing someone’s name.

On Monday (March 28), Grammy nominee posted a photo to Instagram letting everyone know that the rumors had pushed her to a suicide attempt.

“Today I wanted to leave this Earth. Being completely selfish for once. Never thought I’d get to such a low point,” the 20-year-old wrote. “Everyone is hurt and everyone is in a place of misunderstanding.. But as of today, I had no single wish to see tomorrow…but God saved me for a reason, and for that I must be grateful cuz I’m not in heaven right now for a reason. On that note, bye Instagram.”

She has since deleted the post.

Several people (thank goodness) have noted that if, for argument’s sake, Kehlani actually did cheat on Irving, there have been quite a few high profile male celebrities who are notorious for their unfaithful ways–yet they’re rarely, if ever, cyber bullied to the extent that Kehlani has been.

Since then, one of those celebrities in particular, Chris Brown, has voiced his opinion in support of Kehlani’s boyfriend and in condemnation of her, calling her suicide attempt a fake move for attention. (As someone who has respected his MUSIC for years, I say this: m

aybe he shouldn’t throw stones in a glass mansion, especially while raising a daughter of his own…)

When will the frightening double standards end?

I could go on and on with this issue. All this to say, we have more power than ever with our words nowadays. People living outside the spotlight have committed suicide in very similar situations to this.

The fact that Kehlani is famous doesn’t change anything. She’s human too. Treat her like one.

I’ll end this with some words of encouragement from some of Kehlani’s friends in the industry:

man. just heard about kehlani. one of the nicest people ever. i wish good energy and strength for her life.

— ahmir•quest• 5 letters only (@questlove) March 29, 2016

https://twitter.com/KeyshiaCole/status/714701617136857088

I love you Kehlani. You're beautiful. Worthy of love and light and happiness.

— JoJo. (@iamjojo) March 29, 2016

Stay strong, Kehlani.

If you or anyone you know needs someone to talk to, call the National Suicide Prevention lifeline at 1 (800) 273-8255.