Jennifer Garner has cleared up rumors about her divorce to Ben Affleck, and she has made it clear that their failed relationship does not stem from the fling with the nanny (but that did happen, since you were wondering).
In an interview with Vanity Fair (which Jennifer Garner is gracing for a March cover), the actress revealed that "we had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny." Garner added that "she had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes. It's not great for your kids for [a nanny] to disappear from their lives.".
This mostly concurs with statements from Affleck's camp, who had denied allegations of the fling leading to a breakup since the couple announced their separation in June. This is the first time that Jennifer has addressed the issue, preferring to "unplug" from the news and to protect her children with Affleck: ten year old Violet, seven year old Seraphina and four year old Sam.
"I took a silent oath with myself last summer to really stay offline. I am totally clueless about all of it.” Garner says.
Garner also discussed Ben's reaction to her strategy, stating “Ben says, ‘Oh, you just don’t care,’ and I say, ‘No, it’s the opposite.’ It hurts me so much, and I care so much.” She added “I cannot be driven by the optics of this. I cannot let anger or hurt be my engine. I need to move with the big picture always on my mind, and the kids first and foremost.”
But she insists that her ten year marriage was true, and that she would do it all over again if given a choice. “I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him,” she says, “and I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.' But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”