It is not easy for victims of sexual abuse to talk about what happened to them. In most cases those who have undergone the traumatic experience have no wish to be painted as the victim , nor would they want to talk about it, sometimes they would even blame themselves. It is very important to listen without judgement , and to remember not to react negatively towards their own truth. It takes a lot of courage for them to speak out and they should not be punished for this. Condemn the abuser but be sensitive to the victim.
With that being said , a new book has been written about pop star Rita Ora, which includes her past relationship with a 26-year-old man when she was 14. Rita has distanced herself from the book and her camp has stated that she 'did not cooperate' with the making of it. However, she did talk about the relationship in 2013, in an interview with Amanda de Cadenet on the show The Conversation.
I would say [he was] about 26, and you have to remember I hadn’t had a relationship before then at all
De Cadenet was quick to point out that given the age gap, as well as the fact that she was a minor, would point towards it being considered child abuse. Something to which Rita Ora agreed: “It’s child abuse, really, isn’t it?” she said, then added "I don't want to say that I suffered it, because I wanted it. I don't want to say that I was forced to do it. I don't want people to think I was abused as a kid, but I was definitely [more] mature than I should have been at 14."
Rita Ora was criticized for this comment, but it does highlight how complex the psychology of sexual abuse is, and as the Huffington Post did point out, sometimes, especially at that age, even if consent is given, it does not mean that no abuse was done, nor is the victim at fault for whatever she felt or feels toward the situation.