Charlie Carver, best known for his role as one half of Alpha-twin Ethan in MTV's Teen Wolf has revealed that he identifies as gay in a series of Instagram posts. The posts were accompanied by a moving essay, on how he dealt with the struggle of being true to himself and how it could impact his burgeoning career.
The series of posts showed a picture of a quote that reads, "Be Who You Needed When You Were Younger."https://www.instagram.com/p/BAakXzjLRjn/?taken-by=charliecarver And Charlie referred to it when he began his essay "About a year ago, I saw this photo while casually scrolling through my Instagram one morning." "It struck me for some reason...and over the course of about-a-year, it became clear why the inspirational photo had called out to me," he wrote to his 769,000 followers. Then he explained how he came to discover himself.
"As a young boy, I knew I wanted to be an actor. I knew I wanted to be a lot of things!...The acting thing stuck. It was around that age that I also knew, however abstractly, that I was different from some of the other boys in my grade. Over time, this abstract “knowing” grew and articulated itself through a painful gestation marked by feelings of despair and alienation, ending in a climax of saying three words out loud: “I am gay”.
He then wrote the anxiety that came with him coming to grips with his sexuality. "I was twelve. It would take me a few years before I could repeat them to anyone else."
But thankfully he had a supporting and loving family. "I recognize that I was born with an immense amount of privilege, growing up in a family where my orientation was celebrated and SAFE," Charlie wrote, but then he still had to deal with his public image as an actor. "When it came to this differentiation of public/private, I was of the opinion that my sexuality could stay off the table…I did not want to be defined by my sexuality. Sure, I am a proud gay man, but I don’t identify as a Gay man, or a GAY man, or just gay."
In the post, he also explained why he eventually went against this way of thinking.
"I now believe that by omitting this part of myself from the record, I am complicit in perpetuating the suffering, fear, and shame cast upon so many in the world. In my silence, I’ve helped decide for to you too that to be gay is to be, as a young man (or young woman, young anyone), inappropriate for a professional career in the Arts (WHAAA???) So now, let the record show this- I self-identify as gay. And does that really matter anymore? As a young man, I needed a young man in Hollywood to say that- and without being a dick about it, I owe it to myself, more than anything, to be who I needed when I was younger."
His twin brother Max , whom Charlie made clear is straight, then tweeted out a simple and cheeky statement of support.https://twitter.com/maxcarver/status/686674365526622208
We agree Max, and brass ones to boot!