Dani Strehle Staff Writer
The Kickstarter website describes itself as “a new way to fund creative projects.” That seems pretty straight forward, right? The website goes on to say: “We’re a home for everything from films, games, and music to art, design, and technology. Kickstarter is full of projects, big and small, that are brought to life through the direct support of people like you. Since our launch in 2009, more than 4.3 million people have pledged over $663 million, funding more than 43,000 creative projects. Thousands of creative projects are raising funds on Kickstarter right now.”
The site also provides a sub-category entitled “What is not
notallowed?” Below is a listing of a few samples of what Kickstarter will not support:
Kickstarter cannot be used to raise money for causes, whether it’s the Red Cross or a scholarship, or for “fund my life” projects, like tuition or bills.
Creators cannot promise to donate a portion of the funds raised or future revenue to a cause.
Projects cannot offer financial, medical, or health advice.
No bath, beauty, and cosmetic products; electronic surveillance equipment; eyewear (sunglasses, prescription glasses, and others); firearms, weapons, knives, weapon accessories, and replicas of weapons; medical, healthy, safety, and personal care products; or infomercial-type products.
No tobacco, drugs, and drug paraphernalia; energy food and drinks; or nutritional supplements.
No offensive material (hate speech, etc.); pornographic material; or projects endorsing or opposing a political candidate.
Okay. Now that you know a little more about the Kickstarter platform, let’s discuss one of their current “creative projects.” Ken Hoinsky, who uses the screen name TofuTofu on his reddit posts, launched a kickstarter on May 29th and his campaign actually JUST ended today (June 19). He was trying to raise $2,000.00 so that he may publish a book entitled Above The Game. Hoinsky describes the book as “a popular step-by-step guide for getting good with women.” Sounds innocent enough. However, Twitter has been blowing up all day long with tweets ranging from outrage to disappointment and disbelief. Kickstarter is really taking the brunt of the attack, as their past supporters are appalled that even after so many people “reported” this campaign, they have allowed it to continue. Here is a sample of some tweets regarding this particular campaign:
-Cue rage stroke today: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/tofutofu/above-the-game-a-guide-to-getting-awesome-with-wom … Kickstarter has been going down the toilet for a while in what they approve, this is beyond.
-@kickstarter ‘ Above the Game
the Game' = Sexual Assault. Want your mothers/sisters/daughters on receiving end?TAKE IT DOWN.
-It treats consent and agency like something optional. No. Just no. @kickstarter should not be hosting Above the Game
The reason supporters of Kickstarter are so upset is because in a chapter of Hoinsky’s book, he all but encourages his fellow men to use force with their women and show them who’s boss. Hoinsky caught wind of the uproar over this chapter and removed it, but as we all know, once something is on the internet, it never REALLY goes away. Which is why I can share these excerpts with you now:
“Never, ever, ever, wait for a SIGN before you escalate! You will miss out on the vast majority of chances if you sit around waiting for SIGNS. Men are notoriously bad at reading women’s minds and body language. Don’t think that you’re any different.
Men are notoriously bad at reading women’s minds and body language. Don’t think that you’re any different.From now on you must ASSUME that she is attracted to you and wants to be ravished. It’s a difference in mindset that makes champs champs and chumps chumps…
Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.
Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.…
The secret to good kissing is using your body and not just your tongue. Don’t slobber all over her like a dog, but don’t peck her lips over and over either. As with everything, it’s a balance. While you’re doing this, grab her by the hips and pull her into you. Press your groin right into hers. Make her feel your erection.…
Grab her hair on the back of her head, by the base of her neck, and pull it back aggressively. Pause and stare her in the eye before going back in.…
Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.
Tell her to suck your dick. Be dominant. Tell her how fucking hot she looks with your dick in her mouth.”
Really? Obviously, the fact that Hoinsky thinks that this is acceptable behavior is abhorrent; but what really gets me is that he truly believes it! I, as a woman, am probably a little bit more accepting of “non-vanilla” sexual activities. I like to mix things up a bit. But even for me, behavior like this would kill the mood IMMEDIATELY. I have no problem with a little dirty talk and things getting a little rough, but Hoinsky crossed a major line here. And it’s all right here for us to see plainly: “ Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances…
Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances…” Operative word here being FORCE.
As previously stated, this campaign came to end at noon EST today. When it was all said and done, this project raised $16,369 ($14,369 more than his goal), and boasts 732 contributors. Which begs the question: are these people truly supporting this guy’s encouragement of forceful sex, or did they simply not do enough research? Either way, it will be interesting to see how the rest of this story unfolds now that the Kickstarter campaign is complete.